(Re) Boner Up

So, a straight guy writes in and asks: “Is there any way for me to recharge faster after an orgasm?”

I love knowing straight guys are reading the blog, because it’s for all guys. I want men everywhere to appreciate and take care of the things they were born with. I want them to love their cocks, love the pleasure they can derive from them, and be more and more willing to admit it.

Anyway, results of a recent survey I found that was published in the Journal of Sexual Medicine (it’s amazing what you can find in the internet, isn’t it?) reveals that the majority of men find 7 to 13 minutes of actual intercourse (thrusting) is the most desirable amount of time before cumming. Okay, we can appreciate that, though I suspect there are a lot of guys out there who would like to extend that – a lot! Not that the ladies in their lives would want it – My “stepmom” once told me her husband plunged and plunged for more than 30 minutes and all she wanted was for him to get off and get off, “How long can you hump your ass and keep it up?” she wanted to know. “As long as it feels good” was my response.

But, what to do when you’ve spewed your load, blown your wad, basted the tuna and you want more? Don’t try to rush it! The worst thing you can do is focus on trying to get your pecker up again. Ignore the little beast. Instead, play with the toys she’s (or, for you gay guys, he’s) placed in front of you. You’ll rise to the occasion faster without obsessing over it.

Every time you ejaculate, according to Larry Lipshultz, M.D., professor of Urology at Baylor College of Medicine, the pituitary gland sends a surge of oxytocin and prolactin into the bloodstream; this makes you relax, opening the valves in your dick so it wilts. These hormones suppress dopamine – the neuro-chemical that helps you boner up.

Scientists suspect age-related refractory time (the amount of time it takes to go from spewing your jizz and losing the wood to getting a hard-on again) is tied to the pituitary system; the older we get, the more it disrupts the balance of the above-mentioned chemicals.

But, of course, there’s help. You can raise your levels of dopamine – and thereby your cock – by eating a diet rich in vitamins B₆ and B₁₂ and Folate; things such as tuna and asparagus.

If you’re really, really unhappy with the time it takes between shags to get your pole into vaulting position – in other words, only if this is totally ruining your sex life (i.e., your partner is complaining all the time) you might consider asking your doctor about an off-label prescription for cabergoline. It’s typically used for patients with pituitary tumors to suppress prolactin, but researchers have been finding that it can also significantly reduce the refractory time for developing sturdy wood.

And who among us doesn’t like a good, sturdy boner to enjoy?